Purposeful, Playful, Passionate

/ Palo Alto Baylands/

To me, being successful means...
never giving up on oneself and learning lessons from failures as much or more than accomplishments

My definition of success has changed over time. 
As a young person/adult, I thought success was measured by achievements and milestones (eg. getting a degree, securing a job, owning property, getting married, and having children). Life taught me it's not about the what that made my life fulfilling, but the who and why. The relationships and personal connections (fleeting as well as enduring) that I made helped shaped the way I viewed as well as moved in the world. Learning to savor and value the experience of my journey than impatiently focused on reaching my destination.

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A Writer, obsessed with truth, resisting retirement

/ Rosatti's Alpine Beer Garden/

To me, being successful means...
To achieve what I set out to achieve, while making enough money to not have to worry, and being able to help others who have not been so fortunate.

My definition of success has changed over time. 
In my youth, I assumed money would automatically accompany good work. It does not. It must be consciously pursued.

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No Matter What, Don't Give Up

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To me, being successful means...
Being able to look in the mirror and be happy with the person looking back. It helps to have a secure home and loving family, too. But those are rarely present or quickly flee without the mirror test, so that comes first. Can you be happy looking in the mirror?

My definition of success has changed over time. 
I learned that despite popular wisdom success is a group sport. I can't stand people who claim or imply that they "did it all on my own." The more I have scratched the surface of those stories over the years the more I find they are either delusions or outright lies. I recall one person I met years ago telling me how he had created a huge real estate empire entirely on his own, how "no one gave me a thing!" -- starting out with nothing, he insisted. I later learned he had inherited five SF properties from his dad. But he could not admit that. He just had to lie and claim to be a self-made man. What I have learned is that there is no such thing. There are just people who don't or won't recognize the people or situations that helped them.

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Stanford, now Law School, California

/ The Dish /

To me, being successful means...
Engaging in work that is meaningful to you; work that you feel makes a positive impact on others. 

My definition of success has changed over time. 
I used to think my work or position as a "successful person" could only be so if there was a tangibly measurable output.

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UC Berkeley, Speech Pathologist, Writer, Podcaster, Parent

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To me, being successful means...
feeling good about who I am, about others, and about what I do.

My definition of success has changed over time. 
Before, I think it meant finding a job I like.

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I love oak trees in the hills

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To me, being successful means...
Loving life and being able to encourage and provide for others.

My definition of success has changed over time. 
It is less of a material target and more of an attitude or state of being.

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Chess Instructor & Master-level Player; Statistical Analyst

/ Cubberley Park/

To me, being successful means...
Being able to relax and enjoy life. Specifically, not having a high stress career, and having friends that are similarly laid back.

My definition of success has changed over time. 
I used to think of success in terms of being able to make a lot money and probably having some kind of high tech job. But it's a big world out there with a lot of time to find what you are passionate about.

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Living Life, Having Fun, and Finding Balance

/ The Oasis/

To me, being successful means...
Being balanced.

My definition of success has changed over time. 
It used to be more about money and material things, now it is about being happy.

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Barron Park kid.

/ Stanford Campus/

To me, being successful means...
Giving back to the community. Sharing wisdom to be a positive influence.

My definition of success has changed over time. 
I started adulthood financially driven. I had monetary success early on. As I grow older, money and things don't matter as much as experiencing life. 

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GO PLACIDLY AMID THE NOISE AND HASTE...

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My time in high school

Attended high school in the
1980s

Overall high school experience
9/10

Grades in high school
A's and B's

 

Favorite subjects
English, History / Social Studies, Physical Education

Struggled with...
Math. I'm just not a natural at it. 

Favorite extracurricular
Sports / Recreation

Life since high school

“The broader definition of success has not changed for me, but what has changed is my awareness that there are many different paths to success. ”

Attended college / university at
Brown accelerated Program in Medicine

Post-graduate education or training
Med school, internship/residency 

Places lived in US
California, Maryland, New York, Oregon, Rhode Island

Current occupations / past occupations
Radiologist

Industries I've worked in
Health Care and Social Assistance 

A little introspection...

To me, being successful means...
finding fulfillment in my work, family, and relationships. I don't believe it's a static goal, but one that requires fine-tuning throughout one's life.

My definition of success has and has not changed over time. 
Yes and no. The broader definition of success has not changed for me, but what has changed is my awareness that there are many different paths to success. 

Anything else that you'd like to share that we didn't ask? 
I'm in the unique position of being able to see my children attend the same PA schools I did. Their world is so different than mine was, and I feel so sorry for today's youth as they struggle to find their place in this increasingly competitive world. This is what I would like to tell them: Where you go to college does not determine your future. If you do go to college, try to find a place that speaks to you rather than going for the big names. Be open to detours along the way (transferring schools, taking a gap year, traveling abroad). Realize that no matter whether or where you pursue your education, as long as you work hard, apply yourself, find your passions and pursue them, you will eventually find your place. Don't get discouraged and don't compare yourself to others.

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My favorite spot in or around Palo Alto

The old Tower Records/Swenson's Ice Cream shopping center

 

TV Editor, Los Angeles, CA

/ Stanford University grounds/

To me, being successful means...
Being true to yourself. Following your dreams. Finding what makes you happy. Being comfortable with your place in life.

My definition of success has not changed over time. 
Not really. I always wanted to make my way. I never really bought into all of society's ideas of who or what I should be.

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chapters of my life, traveler, wife, mother, and rancher

/ Foothill Park/

To me, being successful means...
being happy with where you are in your life. Being able to look back at my life and be satisfied with what I've done, and looking forward to the next chapters of my life.

My definition of success has changed over time. 
Having a good income is nice, but labels and things have never given me a fulfilled feeling. My actions have.

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Mother of Sparkle Hunter and Glitter Girl

/ Varsity Theater/

To me, being successful means...
Having healthy relationships with my family, my community, a God of my own understanding and myself.

My definition of success has changed over time. 
I used to think my career and hobbies were the most important. Then I realized my idea of success was based on self glorification.

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Musician, Teacher, Adventurer, Mother

/ Tressider Union/

To me, being successful means...
A loving family, good friends, good health, financial security, a positive attitude, enjoying life.

My definition of success has changed over time. 
Yes and no. I believe these goals were always there, just not articulated in my consciousness earlier in life.

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Believe in Yourself and Be Optimistic. Speak Up!

/ Foothills Park /

To me, being successful means...
Being happy and content and enjoying life, living it to its fullest. Being able to relax if just for a moment and reflect on what I have, small or large, and feeling good about the choices I've made. It's about being grateful and being successful in LIFE, not necessarily a career. And life, to me, is not work. 

My definition of success has not changed over time. 
I assume that when I was younger (child/teen) I thought money meant success but I don't clearly recall any feelings one way or the other. It was hard to get away from seeing the wealth in Palo Alto and seeing what we did "not have" relative to others, in terms of material objects. My family and my friends' families were not rich and we lived in a neighborhood where grand homes, careers and money weren't flaunted and weren't a driving force. We didn't have as much as others but that was OK. My mom and dad did not espouse the idea that money equals success so in turn I was not raised to believe this. I am grateful for that and recognize the gift of growing up in PA and being comfortable and safe, while at the same time recognize that we were in a bubble and our perspectives are skewed because of that.

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Bowdoin College, Sustainability and Energy

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To me, being successful means...
Being happy, being grateful, and being able to help others / contribute positively to society in a meaningful way.

My definition of success has not changed over time. 
I don't really know. I was lucky that I was never wired super tightly in high school to think of college and grades as my end-all be-all. I do think now I define success less in terms of my personal accomplishments and more about what is important for my community, company, city, and family.

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From Close to Open Minded

/ Elizabeth Gamble Garden/

To me, being successful means...
Doing what you love and making a difference in the world.

My definition of success has changed over time. 
When I first entered high school, I visualized success as a formula: You had to receive excellent grades on your transcript, participate in a plethora of extracurricular activities that proved to be meaningless over time, be athletic and play sports, be involved with music and instruments, and still maintain a healthy social and family life. It was basically to do the impossible, and I realized that being able to juggle all of these different activities is unhealthy and negatively impacts a lot of people around you. Biting off more than you can chew does not make you look cool or capable, it just makes you look stupid. I learned to cut back unnecessary commitments and activities, and to indulge in the ones that I loved rather than the ones that I felt obligated to do.

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UC San Diego, Scientist and Nurse, California

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To me, being successful means...
having strong, positive relationships in my life, being a good role model for my kids, having a strong sense of who I am and what matters to me.

My definition of success has changed over time. 
I think when I was younger, it was more financially based and/or making some discovery of major impact on the world 

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Nonprofit advocate who loves to travel

/ The Prolific Oven/

To me, being successful means...
doing something that you love to do. It shouldn't necessarily be about the money; of course, that does help.

My definition of success has not changed over time. 

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